3D - 2

So I had my ultra sound a week ago today and...?

It was 3d/4d... So I was showing my family the pics (I think these are soooo cool) and my sister said that she thought my baby looked like my father who passed away in early aug of last year. Well she mentions it to my step mom and my step mom agrees, and while at my grandpas bday last weekend, I am asked to show them (my dads parents) the pic, well my step mom tells them she thinks Aiden looks like my dad, and all of a sudden oh yes he does and tears and blah blah blah. I feel so guilty for being so crappy about it but honestly, due to my husbands family and their strong genes, I doubt Aiden will look like me, all of his family look alike! Our daughter doesn't look like me at all either! And if my son were to resemble my dad (I look a ton like my dad) then it's genetics to me, but these people (family or not) seem to think Aiden will be my father reincarnated or something! Help with advice on how to stop this crap please! It makes me very upset... it's not that I mind the concept of my son looking like my father, it's that i mind people treating me differently because fo this and the fact that knowing my dad's side, if Aiden did look like my dad they would treat Aiden literally like a god and my daughter like crap (which they do already) they have a pecking order to them, and feel entitlement to anything they THINK is theirs and I know that if Aiden did look like my dad again this would pose a problem becuae they would feel the need to cling to my son as if he was theirs!

Public Comments

1. Sounds like your family just WANTS the baby to look like your dad. Despite how clear a 4D u/s is, one really can't tell who the baby resembles just yet! That's just silly. Sorry you were so upset. I would let it go, at least until the baby is born. If they persist with this nonsense, tell them how you feel - That your son is his own, unique little being and that treating him as if he is your father's clone makes you uncomfortable.
2. Just let it go. Hopefully, he'll look different enough that people won't do that. My brother died in a motorcycle wreck 2 years ago at age 18. Now, my parents think that my unborn son will be the "new Charlie". Let's just cross our fingers and hope common sense prevails.
3. oh boy...I feel for ya. wish I had advice but I'll leave that up to someone else.
4. ooo, tough one. justl let them know how you feel. if the baby does resemble your dad, and they start treating him differently, then back away from them.
5. I honestly know how you feel. My dad was killed in 2003 and I had my second son in 2006, he does look like my dad. It hurts me that people bring it up all the time. I love my daddy and miss him very much, don't get me wrong. I just wish that they wouldn't point it out all the time, because I miss him so much. But honestly I can't tell you what to do, I am still trying to figure that out myself! Good Luck!!
6. I would just ignore them, all that matters is that your baby is healthy! You will love him no matter what! And so will they, if your family thinks that it is different if he looks like one of "their own" they need to remember that... your daughter is ONE OF THEIR OWN!! They are both blood, your blood, your fathers blood, their blood! If it bothers you that much I would tell them just what I said... BOTH of your kids are THEIR blood! No matter WHO they look more like! Good luck sweetie!
7. im sure your son will be adorable no matter who he looks like! Just be happy your having a healthy baby boy. Wants he is born then u can see who he really resembles. And if my son looked like my father who passed away it would be a blessing to me somthing even more to remember my father :)
8. i don't know why people do that when someone dies.. and as for the part about them loving your son more than the child you have now if they do start to do that point it out at the start that you see it and it needs to stop.. tell them they are both there grand kids and they need to be loved the same...........
9. I am so sorry sweetie. It sounds to me like they all miss dad very much and are trying to grasp him thru your son. Maybe sit your mom down and tell her. Tell her you love and miss him just as much as they, but if/when Aiden is born he is NOT your dad. He will be Aiden. And you will tell him stories of your father and how much of a wonderful man he was... Keeping his memory alive. Stress to her to please tell everyone not to treat him any differently than your little girl regardless if he looks like you & dad. Let mom pass on all of this and handle it. You are preggy and should be taking it easy... Not stressing over anything! Hugs! Lyn